If you’re a regular stalker of my blog, you would probably notice a severe lack of content this month. That’s largely due to the fact that I’ve been a little preoccupied with getting married. You read that right, married. The love of my life and I tied the knot on the 19th of May, 2017 and it was perfection. But before I start throwing in bits of mush over how lovely our day was, I have to address how little information there really is about getting married in court for South Africans. Starting with how you don’t actually get married in court at all – this isn’t a romantic comedy.
You also can’t just pitch up at Home Affairs and expect to get married, you have to book your date in advance. So those shotgun wedding aspirations will have to be put on hold until they can fit you in, which is probably a blessing in disguise anyway, right?
The process is pretty simple too. You show up at your Home Affairs office with ID documents and giddy feelings for the love of your life. Fill out a little form with your deets and pick a date out of the few available. Also, you have to understand that you can’t insist on a weekend wedding, spots available are typically during office hours. The clerk who helped us initially was a dream who made jokes about PC’s marital status and was thrilled that we chose his birthday to get hitched.
Another thing you should know is that you won’t have to pay a cent to get married at Home Affairs. You will, however, be hustled out of R360 for ID photos that you’ll need for the day. We chose a shotgun wedding because we’ve been engaged for 2 years already, in a relationship for 6 and have been to hell and back with each other. We still adore each other and it was just time, you know? Plus, PC want’s to legally adopt Riley, which is made easier by a marriage certificate.
Everything about our wedding was intimate and very us. The marriage official who helped us was amazing, the sweetest lady imaginable who you could tell really loves her job. We absolutely got dolled up for the day, and I even crafted my own bridal bouquet. I invited my closest and best friends to be our witnesses and my new in-laws.
Both our moms are in the Western Cape, so they couldn’t attend even though they both really wanted to.
The actual ceremony literally took 10 minutes to do, it probably would have been 11 minutes if PC and I had prepared our own vows. We didn’t, we’re not that cool. I am also 100% certain that I would have messed up, I was unbelievably nervous. We were pronounced husband and wife, kissed and went to brunch.
The icing on the cake for us was that the three of us went to watch Guardians of the Galaxy vol. 2 (which is epic, by the way). That was literally the best day possible for us all. Riley was thrilled because he was now legally part of the family, I was thrilled because I’d married the man of my dreams and PC was thrilled because I’m 11 years younger than he is.
We’re still planning a celebration for later in the year with family and friends. This was the I Do version for us and I loved every minute of it. Did you get married at Home Affairs? How did you share your special day?
Until next time.